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Souvenirs

Souvenirs

I hate graveyards and old pawn shops
For they always bring me tears
I can’t forgive the way they rob me
Of my childhood souvenirs…

Memories, they can’t be boughten
They can’t be won at carnivals for free
Well it took me years to get those souvenirs
And I don’t know how they slipped away from me…

Broken hearts and dirty windows
Make life difficult to see
That’s why last night and this mornin’
Always look the same to me…

Memories, they can’t be boughten
They can’t be won at carnivals for free
Well it took me years to get those souvenirs
And I don’t know how they slipped away from me

(from Souvenirs, written by John Prine)

On January 30th 2000, John Prine performed on the PBS television show Sessions at West 54th, which was kind of an Austin City Limits type show if you are familiar.

Prine, in his intro to the song “Souvenirs” described how he got a job at this club in Chicago after an open mic type short performance. He was to play an hour on Thursday nights and had to write more songs to fill the hour.

In his day job, John Prine was a mailman.

After four or five weeks he decided he needed to change it up a little and he told the story of how he wrote the song Souvenirs. “So, I wrote this song on the way down to the club…(pause laughs)…wish I could still do that”…(laughs again).

Man, can I relate to that.

I got an email from my cousin Judy last evening.
Judy is kind of the matriarch of the Norwegian side of the family now.
Included in Judy’s email was a photo of her as a child with my uncle Teddy (Theodore) and some memories she had of Teddy and some of my other cousins.

My uncle Teddy was my father’s younger brother. Teddy passed away in 1982 at the young age of forty-nine. It was tragic for our family, and I still miss him today.

Like John Prine, Teddy was a mailman, and worked for the Oceanport Post Office for twenty-six years.

He was larger than life, always whistling, always had a big idea to make money like flying fresh fish to upstate New York, or buying concrete molds to make and sell garden ornaments.

And you could always hear him coming on his mail route because he was always whistling.

Recently, I had the unusual opportunity to share some time with my siblings, since we are all spread out, that doesn’t happen very often anymore. My California brother Gary came east for a couple of weeks to see our mother and the last weekend of May, Kim and I visited my home town of Oceanport for an event my sister Pat had going on.

Growing up, Oceanport was home to the U.S. Army post Fort Monmouth. I have a lot of childhood memories involving Fort Monmouth. Armed Forces Day festivities on the parade grounds; going to the post movie theater to see Martin and Lewis movies and the place where my crush on Connie Francis first started; bowling for the first time at the fort bowling alley.

The Army has since moved on, and the property is now being redeveloped for commercial and residential use. One of the larger commercial development projects is with Netflix and sound stages.
Ironically, one of the streets that takes you from the old Oceanport east gate to the west gate at Eatontown is called the Avenue of Memories.

That weekend, in addition to The Avenue of Memories, I took Kim for a long walk along the streets that made the blocks that were my childhood haunts.

Up Main Street past the spot where my grandmother’s house once stood and the duplex rental property she owned next door, gone now and replaced by a new intersection. But still visible is the garage with the apartment upstairs where my brother Carl and I lived temporarily one year, and where my grandmother kept the 57 Chevy below. My grandmother would take us to the beach in North Long Branch in that 57 Chevy.

And from that same view I could see the house my father built in the background.

We passed the Oceanport Hook & Ladder fire house that was so much a part of my family’s life growing up.

We went up to the Wolf Hill School where my siblings and I, as well as my mother and father, in fact, attended school.

Down the blocks of Pemberton Avenue and past the houses of friends, classmates, and cousins.

I am pretty sure Kim was bored to death, but at least we got some steps in.

Just before Kim and I left for home in Virginia, my sister gave me an item that my grandmother had given her. It was a medal, a souvenir really, from the Drittes Deutsches Turnfest (Third German Gymnastics Festival) which was a massive national sports and patriotic event held in Leipzig, Germany from August 2 to 5, 1863. It probably belonged to her father or grandfather who came from Germany.

According to the internet and AI, “Souvenirs” by John Prine is a poignant reflection on the bittersweet reality of time passing, lost innocence, and the precious, irreplaceable nature of memories. It explores how the physical markers of our past slip away and how unresolved grief can cloud our perspective on the present.

The bittersweet reality of time passing…
The irreplaceable nature of memories…

Memories, souvenirs…they don’t all have to be medals that we can hold in our hands.

I can still drive down the Avenue of Memories and at least some of those experiences come back to me.

I can walk the blocks of my childhood neighborhood and reflect on those physical markers that are still there and I can acknowledge some of those that have now slipped away, but still manage, at least for time being, to allow me to put a story to that memory.

We can come across and share old photos, like that of Judy and my Uncle Teddy, and the irreplaceable memories that a photo can bring and capture them forever in an email just as Judy shared with me.

Because like John Prine wishing he could “still do that,” the passing of time makes for less of those spontaneous inspirational moments and more difficult for words to be captured and those souvenirs saved and shared.

And now, since I risk saying “the passing of time” one more time and this becoming more of a word salad than it already is, I will end by encouraging you to save your stories, save your souvenirs, they are irreplaceable, and need to be shared.

It took years to get them, they can be gone in an instant.

Postscript:

Who would have thought, gymnastics was that popular in 1863, that Germany would host a gymnastics festival. In fact, it turns out Leipzig has hosted thirteen of these festivals including the one in 1863 and the most recent in May of 2025 that included 80,000 participants and 750,000 visitors. Gymnastics was never very popular with me, you should have seen me flopping around on “the horse.”

And yes, when I was about nine years old, I had a huge crush on Connie Francis. I still like to listen to her sing.

I have written about John Prine before, in April of 2020 when he died as a result of complications of Covid. If you are not familiar, he is worth the listen.

Here is the original of Judy and Ted
The Turnfest Souvenir
The actual 57 Chevy restored by my brother Gary. Gary got the 57 as his souvenir, I got the 1863 Gymnastics medal. Oh well, guess I should have showed more enthusiasm raking my grandmother’s leaves.
Singing a Nickel Song

Singing a Nickel Song

I am back from western Pennsylvania and I am home alone again.

My wife stayed to help her mom.

Sunday afternoon I was sitting alone on the couch in my basement watching the Steeler’s play the Titans when a bug literally flew up my nose.

“Seriously?” I said out loud as I snorted and shivered.

“A bug just flew up my nose?”

Ironically with everything that has not gone well this crazy year of 2020, the Steelers began this game 5 and 0 for the season.  Though they were winning early in the fourth quarter, they did their best to set up the typical Steelers nail biter finish by pretty much letting the Titans catch up.

But it’s just football in a year when everything that has happened or equally as important, isn’t happening makes it just trivial.

On the way up to Pennsylvania last week I took a break at my usual stopping place, a McDonalds in Clear Springs, Maryland.  Returning to my truck I found a nickel on the pavement.

I had to think but don’t remember the last time I saw a nickel.

 

When I was a kid growing up in Oceanport, New Jersey I lived on a dead-end street. Once my dad finished building our house on property he bought from my mother’s parents, there were seven houses on the street.  According to my mother, my great grandparents owned all the property on the street at one time.  What was not sold off was left to my grandmother. The street was called Willow Court because of the numerous willow trees that grew on the end closer to the river.   Access to my street was via my little town’s bustling business district that we referred to as “downtown” and off one of the main roads called Oceanport Avenue.  As you made the turn it did a dog leg right up to where it ended with an apple tree.

Oceanport had a variety of commercial establishments “downtown” and how you remembered them depended on what era you identified with.  Art’s liquor store was one, Art was the grandfather of my first friend John who lived in a house on the river behind the liquor store.   Our friendship was arranged between our moms since we would soon need each other to walk to school because we were starting kindergarten that year.  We remained friends a long time.

There were also three gas stations or service stations as they were known back then;  a drug store called Park’s Drug store, and a couple of luncheonettes.  Bob and Norma’s was on the river side, and also sold convenience items like cards and razor blades, and deodorant.

I once bought my grandfather some Old Spice deodorant from Bob and Norma’s for his birthday.  I am pretty sure that was his best gift ever.  My mother even worked there as a “soda jerk” when she was in high school.

Next to Bob and Norma’s was the Village Market run by a guy named Frank Callahan.  His son Kenny would join my friend John and I and become good friends from kindergarten.

Being just over the bridge from the Army base at Fort Monmouth, we had three barbershops and three bars that kept busy.  In the middle of all these businesses was a large, very old house which was owned and occupied by my great grandparents when they were alive.  When I was a kid however, it was then left to my grandmother and had four apartments which she rented out.  In my family we referred to it as “The Big House.”

I was very familiar with nickels growing up as a kid in the early 60’s because our kid currency mainly consisted of nickels and pennies.  We worked for those nickels and pennies by scouring the properties around those businesses for deposit bottles.  You could get two cents for a small size bottle like an eight ounce Coke bottle or a nickel for a larger twenty eight ounce bottle.  With those three bars, the liquor store, the three service stations with soda machines, those luncheonettes, and the market, we had the deposit bottle business locked up in that neighborhood.

Throw in a whole lot of GI’s in town with the Vietnam conflict ramping up, and the Monmouth Park Racetrack less than a mile up the road when horse racing was in its heyday in the 60’s and yup, the bottle deposit business could be lucrative.

And this was before there were litter laws.

Bottles were everywhere.

 

As a result, an enterprising six or seven year old could do pretty well.

We would just go find our days’ work of bottles, take them over to Callahan’s market, plop them on the counter, and wait for our payout.

Then we would take our earnings and head down the street to Park’s Drug store to do our part in helping the local economy.  Mr. Park the pharmacist was kind of grouchy and scary but the guy that worked for him, Rios was always happy.  We could get our Bazooka Bubble gum for a penny, or maybe some baseball cards and gum, or Beatles cards and gum, or on a good bottle day maybe even an ice cream sandwich.

As I got just a little bit older the bigger money could be made raking leaves.  I could actually get a quarter or two out of my grandmother for raking leaves.

I hated raking leaves for my grandmother.

But work was work.

You had to take it when you could get it.

And in the winter, my brother Carl and I would team up and shovel snow.

We would walk the neighborhoods and knock on doors and shovel snowy sidewalks.  That was really the big time because a sidewalk in the snow could be worth a buck or two.  We split it 50/50, but most times we just ended up in the luncheonette eating our profits.

 

Life was very different.

A nickel like I found and tossed into the console of my truck maybe never to be seen again, had some value then.

On Sundays we went to church and Sunday School in the morning but because businesses were closed due to Blue Laws we couldn’t do much else on Sunday afternoons.

We had Sunday football on TV but it was in black and white, and baseball was still the big attraction back then so not too many paid attention.

And since blue laws meant the bottle deposit business was shut down too, maybe I raked my grandmother’s leaves, or helped my dad the basement as he built something (I hated that even more).

Now we don’t go to church on Sunday mornings because of COVID, but we can go shopping till we turn blue.

Go figure.

Well that’s my two cents worth or five cents worth, but luckily you don’t have to take it when you can get it.

 

As expected with 14 seconds left the Titans just needed to make a 46 yard field goal to tie the game and send it in to overtime.

Then the snap… the hold…Gostkowski’s kick was up…

And it passed just right of the uprights.

He missed, and the Steelers went to 6 and 0.

Maybe a bug flew up his nose?

 

The moral of the story?

 

Hard work pays off?

We need to return to a life that was simpler?

or

It’s best to be alone when a bug flies up your nose.

 

Post Script:

Make sure you get out and vote!